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brides

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Every paragraph the index cites under brides, once, in the order of the book. Beside each stand the entries that cite it.

70:7.13Many later tribes sanc­tioned the for­ma­tion of women’s se­cret clubs, the pur­pose of which was to pre­pare ado­les­cent girls for wife­hood and moth­er­hood. Af­ter ini­ti­a­tion girls were el­i­gi­ble for mar­riage and were per­mit­ted to at­tend the “bride show,” the com­ing-out party of those days. Women’s or­ders pledged against mar­riage early came into ex­is­tence.

83:2.3An early type of wed­ding cer­e­mony was the mimic flight, a sort of elope­ment re­hearsal which was once a com­mon prac­tice. Later, mock cap­ture be­came a part of the reg­u­lar wed­ding cer­e­mony. A mod­ern girl’s pre­ten­sions to re­sist “cap­ture,” to be ret­i­cent to­ward mar­riage, are all relics of olden cus­toms. The car­ry­ing of the bride over the thresh­old is rem­i­nis­cent of a num­ber of an­cient prac­tices, among oth­ers, of the days of wife steal­ing.

83:3.2The bride shows were oc­ca­sions for dress­ing up and dec­o­rat­ing daugh­ters for pub­lic ex­hi­bi­tion with the idea of their bring­ing higher prices as wives. But they were not sold as an­i­mals—among the later tribes such a wife was not trans­fer­able. Nei­ther was her pur­chase al­ways just a cold-blooded money trans­ac­tion; ser­vice was equiv­a­lent to cash in the pur­chase of a wife. If an oth­er­wise de­sir­able man could not pay for his wife, he could be adopted as a son by the girl’s fa­ther and then could marry. And if a poor man sought a wife and could not meet the price de­manded by a grasp­ing fa­ther, the el­ders would of­ten bring pres­sure to bear upon the fa­ther which would re­sult in a mod­i­fi­ca­tion of his de­mands, or else there might be an elope­ment.

83:4.7The teas­ing of new­ly­weds and the pranks played upon hon­ey­moon­ers are all relics of those far-dis­tant days when it was thought best to ap­pear mis­er­able and ill at ease in the sight of the spir­its so as to avoid arous­ing their envy. The wear­ing of the bridal veil is a relic of the times when it was con­sid­ered nec­es­sary to dis­guise the bride so that ghosts might not rec­og­nize her and also to hide her beauty from the gaze of the oth­er­wise jeal­ous and en­vi­ous spir­its. The bride’s feet must never touch the ground just prior to the cer­e­mony. Even in the twen­ti­eth cen­tury it is still the cus­tom un­der the Chris­tian mores to stretch car­pets from the car­riage land­ing to the church al­tar.

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See also marriage; weddings